Compromise

Something you may have noticed in your life is that you can't avoid interacting with people. Either family, friends, classmates, teachers, bosses, other drivers on the road, the lady at the bank. During these interactions, I have noticed that not everyone thinks and does the same things. It is necessary that a person know how to compromise, especially when dealing with relationships (between family, friends, and significant others).

Depending on how you are brought up, you have a unique sense of how things should happen. I mean that some people are brought up thinking that everything should go their way; compromising for them can be difficult. It's important to know that they really are not to blame, it was upbringing. But everyone also needs to realize that you can't just go around blaming everything on your parents/guardians. If you always want everything your way, sure that's who you are, but you need to be aware of it, and do your best to make things fair. There is no reason that one person should always get their way no matter how they were raised.

Depending on the things people value, some situations may be easier to compromise about than others. If a couple both promised dinner Friday to different people, one to a boss and the other to a family member, depending on what each partner thinks is most important will depend on where they are willing to compromise. Some people would say, "Well duh, family comes first" while others might think, "Well your family will always love you and be there for you, maybe there is a new position open that one is trying to suck up about." There are many factors for both people involved and both need to try to just stop and review the important things from both perspectives and discuss the options. For people who get heated about things quickly, this would be difficult.

Here is another blog by Todd, where he makes suggestions about how to compromise.

Do you compromise well? Why or why not?
Do the people around you agree?

Leave your thoughts!

~Aria

Writing...

It's been a few days, okay maybe almost a week, and I haven't posted an actual post. I'm afraid that whatever I do write won't be interesting; won't be enough to get you to come back. I do that with a lot of things though. I take a cautious approach; so cautious that I would rather do nothing than do something wrong.

I recently learned through the "Keirsey Temperament Sorter" that I am an Idealist. Among other things, it told me that I have a great concern for what others think or want, even in my own life. This can be a good thing if it means I'm social and have a high regard for others' feelings. But it also means I also don't like doing anything that will let someone down. If you tell me I would look better in a blue shirt after I pick out a red one, I'll probably switch shirts.

One phrase that I heard was how my personality type can feel pulled outward by 'external forces'; this makes me 'vulnerable' to the opinions and desires of others. I always thought that my eager to please attitude was good. I could make teachers, parents, and bosses happy because I genuinely wanted to. Then as I one grows up, one starts making decisions on their own. It's really hard for a people pleaser to learn to make their own decisions when they are so worried about what the people around them want. I struggled with some decisions and with keeping myself happy with my choice because, even if only on a small level, I let someone else down.

What do you think?
Do you struggle with this?
What kind of personality traits do you have that can be good and bad?

Thanks for reading! Please share your thoughts.
~Aria

Day 1 of Blogging

I feel that people are the most important things in our world. Everyday people have countless thoughts and ideas. I like knowing people and hearing thoughts. It's fun to learn about other peoples' perspectives.

My Goal for this blog is that to share random ideas and thoughts with people, you, and get your thoughts in return. We can all discuss life and what it's all about on here.
(Note: that this goal isn't possible without you...)
:)